Wikipedia says :
A
loner is a person who avoids or does not actively seek human
interaction or prefers to be alone. There are many reasons for
solitude, intentional or otherwise, and "loner" implies no specific cause. Intentional reasons include
religious[1][2] or
personal philosophies, unintentional reasons involve being
highly sensitive, having more extreme forms of
shyness and
introversion, or various
mental illnesses. The
modern term "loner" is usually used with a negative connotation
[3] in the belief that human beings are
social creatures and those that do not participate are
deviant.
[4][5]
In
popular culture, however, there is a certain romanticism in the idea of the loner since he or she is seen as special and unique. This can be attributed to the notion that truly great people often lurk in the shadows of societies that espouse corrupt or superficial standards of existence. As a result, the concept of a lonely hero is a recurring theme in stories.
(not that i left the accessible links for u guys to go to the link if u want to)
the one thing i realised about people nowadays is that when you ;
1. dine alone
2. shop alone
3. watch movies alone
4. goes
ANYWHERE alone
*******************************TA-DAA!!!***********************************
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
YOU ARE NOW OFFICIALLY LABELLED A 'LONER'!!!!
Don't get me wrong.
I don't LIKE or PREFER to do things alone. But hey, u don't ALWAYS have to do stuff with someone there with u right?
Tonnes of people in the world agrees that some time alone is good for the soul.
1. Dining Alone
I love talking to my friends, laughing with my friends, snack with my friends all-day-long, and all those. However, it doesn't mean that i always, always,
ALWAYS have to go out with a bunch of people.
Sometimes, when u need to go out for a meal, and especially when u're like me (u can't friggin' prepare a proper edible meal by yourself), u go out for meals
A LOT. And if u care about having a human being with you ALL-THE-TIME, u're gonna need about maybe.... 1 hour 30 minutes or maybe 2 whole hours for a single meal!!
Going out alone saves one alot of time. By the time u find someone to accompany you, u had spent the time that u could've used to finish up a whole lamb. And when u have someone with u, u tend to talk (u can't call someone out with u and JUST eat, right?).
that + the time spent for finding someone to go out with u (not everyone is free when u're free)+eating = lots of time.
U could've just grab your wallet, car keys, and a little entertainment (iPod,a book, any reading material, PSP, etc.) and go have ur meal. This way, u'll be back by 30 minutes and u can continue doing whatever u wanna do after that.
Dining alone is not a rocket science, is it?
2. Shopping Alone
I get influenced easily, especially during shopping. Sometimes it's a good thing, sometimes it's a bad thing. But somehow it just happens that most of the time it happens to me, it's a bad thing. I tend to get opinions and LOADS and LOADS of comments from someone if i'm with someone. So, i ended up buying a whole bunch of stuff that my friend liked, not me, in my past shopping experiences.
Going shopping with a girlfriend, or maybe two, or maybe none is the best during shopping. For a whole group of people to go shopping together, that is absurd. Seriously. When u have a big group with u for shopping, u spend HOURS in ONE shop. ONE shop! Imagine how many shops i would've went if i was alone!!
If u have to, get someone who :
1. has the same fashion sense
2. has the same interest in stuff (makeup, clothes, hair accessories, etc. )
3. believes in efficient shopping ;and
4. has the same budget in spending as u.
Anyhow, when u're alone, u're free to go wherever u want! Suddenly i felt like grabbing an ice cream, BR. Then i feel like looking at clothes, F21. Then i feel like looking at books, Borders. No one cares, no one says u're being troublesome, no one will grumble in their hearts about how u're going from this end of the building to the other end of the building just anytime and anyhow u like. U don't get blamed for being a selfish bitch for making your friends feel bad.
If anything, i would love some quality time with my girlfriends, but shopping is something best(not must!) done alone.
3. Watching Movies Alone
People see activities like 'going for a movie' and 'grabbing a bite' something that MUST be done with someone, regardless of couples or in a group of friends. U go into the screening room, u still watch the movie alone, u don't talk during the movies (or people might be throwing popcorns at u for being noisy). So it doesn't really make a difference whether u go alone or with 5-15 people. Your friends watch the same show, just different time. U can review the movie when u get together later on, right?
I hate missing conversations during movies. Especially in the theatre, cos they don't rewind the movie for you, just because u missed what the people were talking cos ur friend interrupted u in the middle of the movie. Have u ever seen the cubicles seats with arm rests in the theatre? Yeah. To seperate u. YOU-DON'T-TALK-IN-THEATRES. Yeah, i do miss laughing off some funny lines or acts during the movies with someone. That's about it. I prefer discussing about the movies AFTER it, not during.
Actually i haven't went to a movie alone before, but i just don't feel that watching movie alone is something to be starred at nor does it need ANY sympathy from anyone. I've seen people done it. They just buy a bottle of water, go in, sit where they're supposed to sit, watch the movie, go back. Simple as 1,2,3 and A,B,C. It doesn't make u a social leaper if u buy a ticket for one.
"I'm not a loner for feeling independent to do things alone.
I'm not a loner for appreciating some quality time alone.
I'm not a loner for having some time alone to settle down.
I'm not a loner for going places myself
I'm not a loner
I'm not in solitude
I just love myself ^^ "
~fwJL~
